I never really thought about the sacrifices the wife of a doctor must make. Don't let her try to bring in the missionaries to explain; remind her that she is an RM and knows all they do and probably much more. Much more, since I am having a hard time to conceive, all adds up to my frustrations. It works, though, because I know that his beliefs have great worth.
Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. I've decided not to mention the CES letter or anything that could be considered "anti-mormon. Work on myself, not him. You will have to bring her down to reality.
Having said that, I believe strongly that it takes a special individual who can remain active in the church and have a non-traditional marriage. I have been dating a doctor for over two years now and we have talked about marriage, as well as some of the challenges his job will entail. This is really a conversation you need to have with him. So basically we were lies to for years. But he has been great till now. And you will be shocked. Now I feel sadness for losing out because of fear, and a cult mindset. This happened to me, and it took me forever to get out of the cult.
We talked during the break and saw each other a few times before he moved, but he finally ended things a month into the break telling me "he loves me, but is no longer in love with me" and "doesn't think he can regain the passion. To others making this consideration, I would certainly suggest that you converse with your Father in Heaven about this important choice. Had to switch to more flexible job. Because people who have problems with interfaith families must needs shortly become a thing of the past. We have almost daily prayers, scripture reading, and lengthy discussions about our beliefs. I recommend that talk. IMO he should've been up-front about that before beginning to date you, but, sounds like you're okay with it now that everything's clear. It made me so very sad.