You have to come second right now. There is no question that God loves all of His children, and that obviously includes non-members. Honestly, the bulk of what I did was pretty routine and uninteresting. Totally hated it too. Have those candid conversations with HIM, ponder, and listen closely for the guidance of the Holy Ghost. If you are both in high school, she may refuse altogether. But it is important to be ruthlessly honest with yourself about how you feel about it.
It kills me that we are now diminished to a mere statistic. I run a local nonprofit and had a demanding job, but it can never be as difficult or challenging as his job. That desire that they be someone other than who they were when they married you is toxic to a relationship. There are all kinds of Mormons, and we as exmormons should know better than to stereotype our former selves.
Mormonism is fundamental to my religious beliefs and my personal sense of identity, and it is the community that I identify with most strongly. That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed. In my experience, life-long member, many Mormons have difficulty thinking outside the box, and putting forth effort to inclue and love. In many ways, you yield some authority to the church. Its so good to be a part of this blog. Otherwise you're just denying them eternal salvation in their eyes. I am worried I won't be able to give him my everything, and the wonderful years of commitment and time spent with him will one day only be memories: Becoming a doctor is my dream, and I have worked incredibly hard thus far. He could never tolerate my work schedule, so I became a stay at home mom. I get sweet texts some morning when he is on his way to the office and that's all it takes the rest of my day is amazing. You can always expand these into group dates by inviting other couples along, which may make her more comfortable in the early stages of your relationship.
I'm always torn between wanting to spend time together doing loads of fun things and giving him space to pursue his dream. I am in my first year of medicine. First of all, Mormons are people so there is a spectrum of what they actually believe on a personal level, and what beliefs are most important to them.