In the aftermath of porn star Stoya alleging that she was raped by ex-boyfriend and fellow porn star James Deen, the couple once dubbed " the Brangelina of porn " has quickly come to the forefront of a serious media storm. Deen denied that he raped Stoya , saying her claims were "egregious," but now several other women are coming forward to echo Stoya's claim. I just can't nod and smile when people bring him up anymore," she wrote on Satuday. Deen responded to Stoya's tweets the following day: "There have been some egregious claims made against me on social media. I want to assure my friends, fans and colleagues that these allegations are both false and defamatory. Twitter has exploded since Saturday with support for Stoya, with many tweets accompanied by solidaritywithstoya. The site adds that the two "got back together in April ," which sounds as though there was a split somewhere in there. Indeed, Stoya confirmed that she and Deen were dating in an interview with the Huffington Post in June Though it's not entirely clear when they broke up exactly, Stoya took to her blog on November 24, , to write about, among other things, giving a blow job to a man who is based in Queens.
On the 28th of November, in two tweets, Stoya—who is in no particular order a famous porn actress, an activist, a writer and a friend of mine—unambiguously accused her ex-boyfriend, fellow porn actor James Deen, of rape. Within days, the porn industry had turned against its golden boy. In so doing, it became the first professional community to respond to allegations of serial sexual violence by actually believing women from the start. What was astonishing was not the courage it doubtless took for Stoya to type those 55 words and hit send — knowing that she would be accused of lying and attention-seeking, knowing the number of people who would claim that as a sex worker, she cannot expect to claim rape and be believed.
Time for the internet to review the other side of the story
Since then, ten other women have come forward with their own allegations of rape, harassment and sexual assault. In it she shared intimate details of her own situation. I felt as if I had no recourse. So I kept working with him, and we kept dating. I swallowed a lot of Xanax and washed it down with unsettlingly large amounts of alcohol. After we split, I started seeing a therapist who is well versed in the specific complexities of sex workers and people who practice BDSM.
I am completely baffled. There are public articles all over the internet, written by her, that make the exact opposite claims. She discusses how we communicated and how we were very careful with consent especially when involved with rough sex. What I do know is that Stoya and I did not have a clean break up. It was pretty messy, full of a lot of emotions and both Stoya and I are to blame for that. She made threats towards me and harassed one of my employees. She spit at this employee as well as sending very inappropriate texts.