Before I met my husband I had dated quite a few members and some relationships were quite serious but I never felt right about it. Before that, you are encouraged to date, but not exclusively. The dots are extremely close for every LDS person, its just extremely hard to connect them. What a joke for an archaeologist. Mormon women are more likely to date outside of the religion than men, but also very unlikely to convert to a different religion. I tiptoed into my current relationship with a medical student dating two years, med school is almost overand one of the first things I brought up when he was pursuing me and he pursued me HARD was that I would not be the kind of person that would date a doctor. About ten years ago, I realized I needed to quit qualifying my excellent husband who is a better man than many Mormon men I knowI realized I needed to raise my kids to think of him as completely equal to the men they knew at church. I don't want to sound like I hate what he does but it's really difficult to be flex parents every time. They will teach the girls that sex is bad and wrong, which is something they will have trouble putting behind them when they eventually do get married. Just go ahead and ask for the definitions and treat it like learning a new language.
I also remember my father a stake president telling me the night before I got married that every single couple he had counseled through marriage struggles were not reading their scriptures or praying together every night. How will this all be once we have children?. Her Religion is more important than you will ever be Her Religion comes first and deep down, she will come to hate you for not accepting joining her religion. I feel pretty awful about that whole thing. If you do believe it fully, are you not really going to want him to make the conversion ultimately.
He is absolutely, hands-down my favorite human being on the planet. Thanks so much for the links. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. It sounds like if we were to have a happy ending, it wouldn't be quite so happy because of how we raise our kids or how the rest of the family would treat me forever We'll discuss it again in more depth now that I have a few specific concerns about what our future together might look like.
As for having children, expect to be a single parent. We see each other he still makes time for me, but i cant really tolerate him insulting me when hes angry for small reasons. Hence the suspicious quotes around "adequately. Dude just to summarize what I think is the majority of the comments. I would need to ask my husband again. This is not about either of you individually.