I think that Doctors have to be selfish to a degree. But she probably is more in love with the idea of you, than with you. Here are my thoughts as someone who grew up with a non-mormon father and as someone who married a non-mormon girl. Its great to hear advice from those who know.
You will be kept abreast of political changes within the church that regulate your wife's behavior -- you are probably already aware of several rules she follows. I simply do NOT believe he and I will not be together after we die. He is coming to church with me and our daughter for the ward Christmas program.
Can he see the good in it, or does he focus on the more controversial aspects. My life may not be as stressful as that of a medical resident or a doctor, but I do often spend upward of 70 - 80 hours per week working. Whereas white and black may both sleep in on Sunday and tie their left shoes first, Mos have a set of behavioral norms that are in serious conflict with Nomo lifestyles. As a general authority I knew, now deceased, told me in the mid-eightiesвIf you find a good man who is not LDS, marry him. Do whatever it takes to at least learn from your relationship with your Mormon crush. I told her that is noble but she would be selfish to marry and work 80 hour work weeks yet if she does marry I can not see any man who would selflessly give over decades for the sake of his wife's career. It means that before anything else, you have to be clear in saying that you want to date a Mormon girl. I read every page of the CES letter, and it's definitely convinced me this entire religion is fabricated, but I'm sure she wouldn't even read it much less consider its points seriously.
If she was anything like me, that idea is probably foreign, radical, confusing, interesting, and inspiring to her. It will be up to you, her man, to support the positive expectations. I respect all doctors so much, they go through hell to be where they are and put up with so much stuff at their work too. So, I can only imagine the stories you hear. Basically, these are long-distance relationship tricks. You and your husband are truly a team, even though things are not always equal.